If you're not already settled in a stable, happy and fruitful relationship...then as a traveler, you may find that your take on relationships is a little different to people around you. I can't speak for everyone, but from what I've gathered, travelers are a lot more detached. Read on to see what I mean...
If you're anything like me, then what consumes your mind mostly is travel .... and even if it's not travel, then It's money because traveling isn't exactly cheap.
I often find myself daydreaming about my next trip and mentally planning my itinerary, before the trip is even booked.
Being in a constant state of wanderlust leaves very little room to worry about much else.. i.e dating.
Dating as a traveler
So, as many of you know I'm only 23 years old and have travelled since I was old enough to hop on a plane. Despite this, when growing up, I was a typical teenager. I would choose my companion solely based on looks, street cred' and all of that other shallow bull*** that doesn't really matter. So, it was no wonder that none of my relationships back then actually lasted.
When I think back to what caused them to fail, it had a lot to do with us not being on the same page. When I say same page, I really mean being on the same passport page and getting it stamped! They NEVER saw the importance of travelling which was a huge turn off for me.
I always thought I'd be able to convince them to have a change of heart by telling them alllll the good things that travelling had to offer (if they gave it a chance), but nope. My efforts were in vain. They were simply not interested in traveling like I was...
Quite frankly, I was exhausted. I'd had enough of trying to convince them to share my passion for travel. It wasn't long before I adopted a new mindset of 'Whether anyone else wants to travel or not...I'M TRAVELLING!', which is when Iife really began.
Once I began living in my purpose and traveling often in my gap year, I noticed that my desire for a relationship had disappeared altogether. I was too busy exploring the world and figuring out who I was.
During this time, I also read a book called The 4 Hour Work Week, which I could relate to a lot. Soon after, I felt the need to rid myself of any commitments that would stop or slow me down from travelling the world and fulfilling my purpose on my gap year of travel, before I would return to University.
I realised that it would be a lot harder to travel when you're in a committed relationship with someone from back home and that that emotional involvement could potentially stop you from traveling. I also paid off any financial contracts early, because I simply didn't want anything tying me down to the UK.
Plenty of fish in the sea
The funny thing about the saying 'there's plenty of fish in the sea' is that it's actually true. Once I started traveling often, I met a lot of new people.
Meeting new people on my travels meant that I've met people who were instantly into the same thing as me, which felt so refreshing.
However, the downside of this is that when you finally meet your 'perfect companion', it can be difficult to form a bond since they probably live in a different part of the world and also prioritise making money and travelling. So is there any hope?
Let's be real here, long-distance relationships can be hard to sustain, so it's a bit of a lose /lose.
What I'm getting at here is that as a traveler... It's very difficult to devote your time and energy to much else outside of travel. We're told that in order to be well-travelled, one must travel light, physically and emotionally.
As much as I enjoy exploring the world and meeting new people, one day it would be nice to be able to do this with my husband and children...but at the same time if it doesn't work out that way and I end up doing it alone forever more, I'd be cool with that too.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on what it's been like for you dating as a traveler/wanderlust. Tweet me, comment or hit me up on Instagram!